Sometimes it takes years, but eventually we all learn valuable lessons. Here are some things I wish I had known years ago.
Now I know that no matter how hard I try to please others, some people will refuse to be pleased. And at that point it’s their problem, not mine.
Now I know that I am 50% of every relationship, no matter how powerful the other person is. I can never be more, but I can pretend to be less.
Now I know it’s up to me to teach people how I want to be treated and that people will never give me any more respect than I am willing to give myself.
Now I know that if somebody offers me something, and I want it, instead of politely saying, “No,” it’s smart to say, “Yes, I’ll take it. Thank you.”
Now I know that whenever I propose a positive change, I’ll get 3 responses. Some will embrace it, others will cautiously accept it, and the rest will instantly resist it. It’s smart for me to first win over the embracers and acceptors and then together we will work on the resisters.
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