Standard Podcast: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download (3052)

Do you have people who constantly nag and criticize you? How about bullying you? It might be your brother, spouse, partner, co-worker, neighbor, or anybody. To get to the root of it: I say, putting you down is a cheap trick for boosting themselves up. By spotting and correcting your shortcomings they get a momentary rush of feeling superior to you. After all, they must be wiser than you since they have the wisdom to see the error of your ways.

Let’s put things in perspective. When you have someone in your life who constantly corrects you, it helps to imagine the buttons on a blender. When one button is pushed down the other buttons go up. By pointing out your faults to you they push your button down and that means theirs goes up. They get an emotional lift. It’s a very basic way to get a boost of self-esteem.

When people do that to me, no matter how sincere they may seem, I quickly ask myself “are you trying to genuinely help me or are you a button pusher?” Usually it’s button pushing. And realizing that helps me handle the situation more rationally and professionally than arguing, getting defensive or feeling inferior.

How do you handle the situation? The same as you’d tell a child about dealing with bullies at school. You can fight if you want to but that usually isn’t effective. Stand up to them by ignoring, smiling, walking away, getting a mediator, or asking a higher authority to intervene. That’s smarter than letting them push your buttons!

My Podcast Alley feed! {pca-e16344dba4d7dcbadfd6197fce10dffc}

Bookmark and Share

Close this Window Bookmark and Share This Page

Save to Browser Favorites / Bookmarks

Ask backflip blinklist BlogBookmark Bloglines BlogMarks Blogsvine BuddyMarks BUMPzee! CiteULike co.mments Connotea

del.icio.us Digg diigo DotNetKicks DropJack dzone Facebook Fark Faves Feed Me Links Friendsite folkd.com

Furl Google Hugg Jeqq Kaboodle kirtsy linkaGoGo LinksMarker Ma.gnolia Mister Wong Mixx MySpace

MyWeb Netvouz Newsvine oneview OnlyWire PlugIM Propeller Reddit Rojo Segnalo Shoutwire Simpy

Slashdot Sphere Sphinn Spurl Squidoo StumbleUpon Technorati ThisNext Webride Windows Live Yahoo!

Email This to a Friend

Copy HTML: 

 If you like this then please subscribe to the RSS Feed.

Powered by Bookmarkify™

More »

Powered by Bookmarkify™

This entry was posted on Thursday, October 11th, 2007 at 9:33 am and is filed under Podcast. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.